Author Archives: Controlled Abandon

I chose this month’s Carnival of Aces theme because I’ve had a bunch of thoughts about symbols of identity lately, and wanted to force myself to write them down. So here they are, in no particular order. 1. I started … Continue reading →

This guest post was written by Patience for the March Carnival of Aces. Before I realized I was ace, I only had a vague idea of what LGBT+ even was. I did know a couple of people who were either … Continue reading →

I’m not very good at making these weekly roundups actually weekly… But anyway, here we are. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been watching Brooklyn Nine-Nine for the second time and enjoying Jake and Amy’s romance just as much … Continue reading →

The split orientation model is useful, as far as it goes, but where it falls apart for me is when we try to understand what romantic attraction actually is. Sexual attraction is much more straight forward. Basically it boils down … Continue reading →

To follow up on my last post, after spending Christmas (and then some) with my family, in the house of my brother and his wife, I spent a lot of time thinking about wanting to have a queer home, and … Continue reading →

So apparently spending the holidays with three (married, allo) couples can lead to some uncomfortable moments. It wasn’t anything big, but just enough small things to add up to me feeling a lot more romance repulsed than normal. I don’t … Continue reading →

I’m sure I’ve read an old AVEN thread where the cake thing got started, and it isn’t any of the ones linked here. http://wiki.asexuality.org/Cake Help?