I’m not very good at making these weekly roundups actually weekly… But anyway, here we are.
In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been watching Brooklyn Nine-Nine for the second time and enjoying Jake and Amy’s romance just as much as I did the first time. I’ve also been rereading some romance novels by my favorite romance author, and really enjoying them.
As someone who is sometimes romance repulsed, and often completely uninterested, I can’t help but wonder why it is that I am enjoying these things. In the past I’ve thought “oh, it’s mostly straight people romance that I’m repulsed by.” These romance books are about gay men and I’m a cisgender a-spec woman who is mostly attracted to women. It’s basically got nothing to do with me. But then along come Amy and Jake, and actually, the bit about being mostly attracted to women is a lie too, it’s more varied than that.
One piece of the puzzle is definitely that real life romance bothers me a lot more than fictional romance does. Another piece, which I just realized this week, is that the amount of chemistry, the believability, how much we see the romance (or the relationship in general) develop, how clearly the attraction is shown, how much of a connection there is between the people.
Amy and Jake have an incredible amount of chemistry. Jake’s whole expression and body language changes at key moments when he’s really feeling/realizing his attraction to Amy. They do this thing where they’re talking and they realize at the same moment how attracted they are. The romance books by that particular author (KJ Charles, if you’re wondering) are similar, though in a much less visual way. I can’t explain how she does it, but you really understand and believe that the characters are attracted to each other, and it goes way beyond the superficial descriptions you see in a lot of books. (Here’s an article about her writing that explains how amazing it is way better than I could.)
Either way, the TV show or the books, it really draws me in and gets me invested, whereas romance that’s less convincingly or believably or deeply written is much more likely to make me respond with disinterest or repulsion. It’s always fun to figure out more pieces of the puzzles of why I like what I like, especially when it seems contradictory.
In other news, I’m excited about this kickstarter project for an aromantic anthology.
Following up on the Queer Home thoughts, I bought this coat rack, and it is wonderful.